tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-335466019866048137.post5850022517581006234..comments2023-09-02T10:30:43.499-04:00Comments on Momo Fali's: My Fear Is RealMomo Falihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09735425888226178189noreply@blogger.comBlogger44125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-335466019866048137.post-91818453245183279152008-12-08T14:47:00.000-05:002008-12-08T14:47:00.000-05:00Oh my. I hope I didn't *actually* scare you over ...Oh my. I hope I didn't *actually* scare you over at BD. I am glad that you are working towards conquering your demons though--the ones rooted in childhood are the hardest ones to untangle.Carolhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04273155071182944148noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-335466019866048137.post-77051577466664873522008-10-28T13:00:00.000-04:002008-10-28T13:00:00.000-04:00Wow, Momo... great post. I am sorry to hear of the...Wow, Momo... great post. I am sorry to hear of the reasons, but I can totally understand your fears. You are a strong mom indeed. Bravo for not instilling those fears onto your kids as some parents do.Maureenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01797167028822330935noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-335466019866048137.post-38847354171996076832008-10-26T02:31:00.000-04:002008-10-26T02:31:00.000-04:00I've always theorized that the last step in healin...I've always theorized that the last step in healing yourself is ensuring your children don't carry your fears/faults/stupidity with them, even if you still do. Bravo!! Good job, Mom. You're healed.Missives From Suburbiahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01485646154495428913noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-335466019866048137.post-60449341544293644572008-10-25T22:35:00.000-04:002008-10-25T22:35:00.000-04:00I understand - I am extremely suspicious of any st...I understand - I am extremely suspicious of any stranger around my house or my kids. When I was eight I was nearly kidnapped by a strange man who saw me walking alone down a quiet street. I'm just glad I was naturally suspicious and ran fast when he tried to grab me. <BR/><BR/>I keep our house completely locked up nearly all the time, and I have a ritual of walking through the entire house before bed, checking each door and window is locked, and checking each room to see if there is anything suspicious.Christinahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07345875955750219033noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-335466019866048137.post-32139326934331241322008-10-25T19:34:00.000-04:002008-10-25T19:34:00.000-04:00Blimey Momo you definitely have reason for those f...Blimey Momo you definitely have reason for those fears. I'm like you. I close my girls wardrobe doors. I make sure their curtains are completely drawn as I can never get that image of Jodie the pig from Amityville from my mind. Miss E is so like me it worries me as she does get scared about stuff, but so far Miss M is a little braver. I hope she stays that way. Hugs.Jo Beaufoixhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00957369658590225971noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-335466019866048137.post-48782974604247703062008-10-25T12:40:00.000-04:002008-10-25T12:40:00.000-04:00Oh honey, I'm so sorry all that happened to you.I ...Oh honey, I'm so sorry all that happened to you.<BR/><BR/>I used to be afraid to go out alone at night. So let's just say I've had some similar experiences.<BR/><BR/>My husband closes our son's closet doors as well, and I tell him, ya know what? *That's* what's going to cause him to have issues w/ the closet being open. LOL But it's for my huz, not for the kiddo. Totally get that.<BR/><BR/>Hugs, hawt lady. ;)VDoghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04542535234309505428noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-335466019866048137.post-88188909391458704042008-10-25T08:35:00.000-04:002008-10-25T08:35:00.000-04:00Bravo on this post AND on not plunking your baggag...Bravo on this post AND on not plunking your baggage onto your kids :) Nice.Mrs4444https://www.blogger.com/profile/06426176094895489541noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-335466019866048137.post-25753285431395675572008-10-24T19:51:00.000-04:002008-10-24T19:51:00.000-04:00Wow... I have nothing to add or help you but I kno...Wow... I have nothing to add or help you but I know the feeling. <BR/><BR/>Sending you virtual support...Mimihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07459462647391788643noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-335466019866048137.post-83871857730246810292008-10-23T11:53:00.000-04:002008-10-23T11:53:00.000-04:00Wow. We all have those fears about our children, ...Wow. We all have those fears about our children, and I can imagine how unsettling your past experiences are on your nerves. It speaks volumes that you are calm enough around your children for them not to be anxious. Congrats on a job well done.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-335466019866048137.post-56738714063589649622008-10-22T23:24:00.000-04:002008-10-22T23:24:00.000-04:00Wow - Momo you are INCREDIBLE! Way to be brave wri...Wow - Momo you are INCREDIBLE! <BR/><BR/>Way to be brave writing this post too. Well done.<BR/><BR/>You are an AWESOME mom. Being a Mom is scarier than anything else sometimes, and you've stood strong and fought back. <BR/><BR/>Keep fighting the good fight... you are kicking ass.<BR/><BR/>xo<BR/><BR/><BR/>Psalm 34:7Piper of Lovehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09221438276329770601noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-335466019866048137.post-12175962969084907902008-10-22T14:17:00.000-04:002008-10-22T14:17:00.000-04:00I can't say enough how AWESOME it is that you've b...I can't say enough how AWESOME it is that you've be taken care not to transfer your (very legitimate) fears onto your kids. I think that is very important and a mark of a great mom. Kudos!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-335466019866048137.post-63297849032067203562008-10-22T09:50:00.000-04:002008-10-22T09:50:00.000-04:00How scary! No one could blame you for your fears. ...How scary! No one could blame you for your fears. But it's really quite an accomplishment that your children are not affected from it! Great job!Mrs. Schmittyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14745072739050640143noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-335466019866048137.post-66540456617432366402008-10-21T20:00:00.000-04:002008-10-21T20:00:00.000-04:00yes, you're right: this proves it. good on you!yes, you're right: this proves it. good on you!MsPicketToYouhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12304288663203185972noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-335466019866048137.post-318797670650789702008-10-21T19:22:00.000-04:002008-10-21T19:22:00.000-04:00your fears sound completely understandable to me. ...your fears sound completely understandable to me. <BR/>when i'm home alone, i turn on every single light. every single one.Desiree Eaglinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17151743719945997936noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-335466019866048137.post-74086191116461620372008-10-21T18:12:00.000-04:002008-10-21T18:12:00.000-04:00Great post.Great post.-Ahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05837755478247457505noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-335466019866048137.post-88619276028780097722008-10-21T17:24:00.000-04:002008-10-21T17:24:00.000-04:00Good for you. I found that living out in the count...Good for you. I found that living out in the country with all it's scary noises and PITCH black dark, I'm actually braver than I was living in the city with bars on my doors and light running 24/7.Mama Dawghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16056327117924455147noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-335466019866048137.post-10792493349400365012008-10-21T05:09:00.000-04:002008-10-21T05:09:00.000-04:00I think it's amazing that you have not transferred...I think it's amazing that you have not transferred that to your kids. Who could blame you if you had? That's a lot to deal with.Putting the FUN in DysFUNctionalhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02996772324484385959noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-335466019866048137.post-46275410670943921942008-10-21T01:46:00.001-04:002008-10-21T01:46:00.001-04:00It's freaky when you have had something like t...It's freaky when you have had something like that happen to you. <BR/><BR/>You brought up some icky memories for me, ew.<BR/><BR/>I hate abusive men, and even though you think you have gotten over it and stand up for yourself, something happens that breaks into that scared girl and you end up shaken all over again.<BR/><BR/>I feel so bad for you that you went through this. How icky.<BR/><BR/>>hug<Blah Blah Blahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14296089222666125692noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-335466019866048137.post-90732994140934965952008-10-21T01:46:00.000-04:002008-10-21T01:46:00.000-04:00Wow, what a world of worry. I took on a peeping t...Wow, what a world of worry. <BR/><BR/>I took on a peeping tom with a garden hose one time. Didn't work. He came back a few times until I let a German Shepherd dog loose on him. <BR/><BR/>Be well and find a way to be safe. I like the pistol action.Aunt Debbi/kurts momhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05663049154538571378noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-335466019866048137.post-11203252224516025562008-10-20T23:30:00.000-04:002008-10-20T23:30:00.000-04:00Very powerful post. Fears can be helpful and usefu...Very powerful post. Fears can be helpful and useful (have you read The Gift of Fear) but othertimes paralyzing. The trick is to know when to act upon the fear. You seem to be doing a good job.worldmommahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12093173337887326130noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-335466019866048137.post-58156124835495526372008-10-20T21:29:00.000-04:002008-10-20T21:29:00.000-04:00Yep. Your fears are completely justified. I too am...Yep. Your fears are completely justified. <BR/><BR/><BR/>I too am very overly cautious and nervous and SCARE very easily. (For some similar reasons.)<BR/><BR/><BR/>I think you are doing a FANTASTIC job of not transferring all of that onto your children.<BR/><BR/>Somehow my 12 year old is not afraid either. So I must have done something right along this path called motherhood.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-335466019866048137.post-86487972143874651532008-10-20T20:26:00.000-04:002008-10-20T20:26:00.000-04:00Did you ever see that movie "Parenthood?" We saw i...Did you ever see that movie "Parenthood?" We saw it again last night. Remember when Steve Martin's Dad talks about how much he cares about his kids...and how you NEVER "cross the finish line", no matter how old the kids get? You always have this crushing, burdensome, miraculous love for them, no matter what.<BR/><BR/>Your post reminded me of that...we all have our baggage from the past, and the more we are aware of it, the less we WILL transfer to them....I also have my nightly ritual of "making the rounds" to sleeping kids. No matter what a rotten day it was, how difficult they were...that quiet time is wonderful (and sometimes scary).<BR/><BR/>Much aloha!!BabyShrinkhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02545657444617742172noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-335466019866048137.post-51647080596530986772008-10-20T19:13:00.000-04:002008-10-20T19:13:00.000-04:00That's scary. But I'm glad you aren't passing your...That's scary. But I'm glad you aren't passing your fears to your children. Those things are scary though, and definitely real.Jainahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05666481569069955190noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-335466019866048137.post-20136267600657207432008-10-20T16:34:00.000-04:002008-10-20T16:34:00.000-04:00Hugs to you. Any pointers you have on not passing ...Hugs to you. Any pointers you have on not passing our fears to our kids would be most deeply appreciated.Sadiahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04042551936789254047noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-335466019866048137.post-16208807371217463432008-10-20T16:08:00.000-04:002008-10-20T16:08:00.000-04:00Wow. I'm so glad you got out. SO glad.When I was ...Wow. I'm so glad you got out. SO glad.<BR/><BR/>When I was about 12, I was out walking and had a car approach me and the most intense sense of prickly fear as it did so. The driver then tried to kidnap me, and thankfully someone pulled up behind him just in time, when I most needed a witness and help.<BR/><BR/>My best friend from high school had a paranoid-schizophrenic husband in a marriage that lasted 26 years (and shouldn't have). We offered her plane tickets 24/7, call anytime day or night, and being across the country from her, I was the one person she would unload to about what was really happening. When she finally did decide to divorce him was when she finally got some time away from him: while he was in jail facing attempted murder charges. He has been found to be a danger to society, institutionalized, and should some quack decide he's now "sane," he will then be referred to the court for the criminal charges and kept in jail. He has continued to threaten, on record; the guy ain't gettin' out.<BR/><BR/>I am SO glad you didn't waste so much of your life on someone like that! And that you found your sweet husband!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com